It’s all nice and good to be attractive and charming, but if you don’t know how to make a girl like you, she won’t be with you for long.
At best, she’ll view you as a selfish player. At worst, a useless person.
While you can get along with a woman for a while being like this, but she’ll eventually begin to think and act wisely and move on.
Making a girl feel special is quite a simple task, but for unknown reasons, a lot of guys do it “wrong”. For example, a lot of guys still believe that saying romantic words or spending loads of cash on a woman will make her feel special. While these tactics can surely help, there are other even better (and less expensive) ways to make her feel cared and loved for.
In today’s post, you’ll discover 9 ways to make a girl feel special.
1. Unique compliments
A beautiful babe is tired of hearing that she is “beautiful,” or that she has an incredible smile. She hears that almost all the time. Her friend, family members, and co-workers tell her that every day.
So, next time before you give a compliment to a girl, try to put some thought and come up with a good reason why you like her. Even better if your compliments are about her personality.
How do you do that?
The best way is cold reads if you just met her for the first time.
Saying something like…
“You seem like the kind of girl who is…” will engage her, which is way better than “you’re hot.”
Here are a few examples of unique compliments.
2. Show some vulnerability
Most guys often put up an ultra-alpha front when meeting new people, especially beautiful women, but interestingly, showing some vulnerability is even more effective way to make her feel special.
Emotions and weaknesses can be incredibly attractive if you can unashamedly own them. It tells that you trust her and value her opinion on delicate topics.
However, showing emotion and weaknesses don’t necessarily mean dump all of your life’s problems on her, just a couple of personal stories can help build a strong rapport (connection) with her.
3. Active Listening
In an ideal world, listening to a girl would not be enough to make her feel cared for. However, most guys never actually listen to anyone they’re talking to. They are too busy either a) thinking of what to say next or b) being too distracted.
But if you can display that you’re in fact a very good listener and ask her thoughtful questions based on her responses, this is enough for her to see that you care.
4. Give Thoughtful Gifts
Now you don’t necessarily have to give an expensive gift to make a good impression on people. But if you can find a gift that demonstrates to her that you remember something she likes, that can go a long way to show her that you care about her.
Anything that says, “I saw this and it reminded me of you” proves she’s on your mind, even when she isn’t around.
5. Inside Jokes
An insider joke, based on an experience shared between the two of you, helps create a strong bond. For example, calling her with a pet name that no-one else calls her can go a long way to create that effect.
6. Choosing HER Over Other People
If you are choosing to go out with her over your friends or activities, this should definitely help her see how special she is to you.
7. Accepting Her Even at Her Worst Self
Women ultimately want to be with a man who’ll love her for who she is, without makeup and when she is sad, as well as when she’s looking beautiful in her cocktail dress.
If you show that you care for her even during the good and the bad times, then it is a sure-fire sign that you really care for her.
8. Putting the Effort
Showing that you really care about a girl is all about actions, not just words.
If you’re putting in effort for a woman you like — whether through travelling a long distance to meet her, going with her to some boring activity, or cooking a meal for her — that should be more than enough to show that you care about her.
Caution: Don’t Overdo it
These 9 effective tips will definitely convert you from a fuckbuddy to boyfriend material, but you must also remember not to overdo it, especially during the early phase of the courting.
A lot of guys make a huge mistake of treating a woman like a princess when they hardly even know her. This behaviour is super needy and desperate, which is not attractive at all. It’s this classic mistake of the “nice guy” that winds up in the friend zone.
To win a woman’s affection initially, I highly recommend that show her all the behaviours of a guy who attracts a lot of girls. And once you’ve done that, and decide that you want to make her as your girlfriend, then follow these 9 tips listed above to show her she actually means more to you than any other woman.
P.S. Here’s another related article on the subject: How to be Attractive to Women