Are You Missing Your Window of Opportunity with Women?
Over the past 7 years, I’ve learned a lot about things that women are attracted to.
First thing, women want the man who is a leader of the pack… Definitely.
Secondly, women also want to be with a guy who has a vision for his life that he is working towards… you probably already knew ambition was attractive, didn’t you?
Thirdly, women want a man who appreciates her opinion but never seeks for her validation or approval… This is super important.
Just think back to any time of your life where a woman lost attraction for you… I bet the reason she lost any attraction she felt for you when you stopped doing any one of these 3 things.
Well, the reason is that these 3 behaviours are “alpha.” And doing just the opposite of it, you are naturally doing “beta” behaviours.
And the moment you start appearing as a “beta” is the moment she’ll start to lose any of her attraction for you.
The biggest reason why a lot of marriages wind up in divorces is that a lot of men believe “attraction” has an end game. Well, actually, it doesn’t.
The moment you stop attracting her is the moment she stops being attracted to you.
But here’s the good news: it all boils down to one important thing — certainty.
Needing approval or guidance from others, not being sure of yourself, is probably the most unattractive traits of a guy.
So let me ask you a simple question…
Are you regularly asking the girl for permission to do something?
Are you regularly doubting your decisions?
Let me tell you a short story…
When I was in my first year in college, I was only 18 years old, and still pretty clueless when it came to women.
So as my college announced that incoming freshman has to attend a seminar called “Can I Kiss You?” I got pretty excited.
At that moment of my life, I was a complete newbie with women. I had only kissed one girl, and I thought that perhaps I’d learn something about how to attract women at this seminar.
(I actually didn’t.)
The entire event reloved around one main idea… to ask girls for their permission at every step along the way. I can still vividly remember the speaker’s words, “Each time you want to kiss a girl, instead of just going for it, you should stop, look at her in the eyes and ask her ‘can I kiss you?’…”
The speaker was clearly on a mission to stop weird looking college kids from sexually making moves on women. And his way of doing this was by completely turning these men into permission seeking, whipped dogs…
Here’s the interesting part…
Whenever the dude said his “Can I kiss you?” line, every girl in the audience instantly went “awwww…”
But here’s my question to you… how many times have you ever asked a girl “Can I kiss you?” and did it work for you?…
Chances are, NEVER GONNA HAPPEN.
This is almost like walking up to a girl and saying, “I find you physically attractive, and I really like your personality. Would you be my girlfriend?”
Like, dude… are you serious?
This just goes to show that women might say they want one thing, but really go after another thing.
I’ve known tons of women who say all they want is a gentleman, who is all nice and treat her right… but at the same time completely ignore those guys for the cocky guy at the bar.
Believe me when I tell you this…
And when you sense that she actually wants you to kiss her, the last thing you should do is wait for her approval. By verbally asking for her permission when she already wants you to kiss her, you’re killing the moment.
Here are the 7 surefire signs that she wants you to kiss her
- There is a silence in the conversation…
- You guys have already been flirting…
- She is completely facing you with her torso…
- She’s holding deep, and relaxed eye contact with you…
- Her pupils are dilated…
- She keeps glancing at your lips…
- All distractions around you seem to fade away…
I mean it’s simple.
So here’s what I’m going to challenge you to do from today onwards…
Instead of asking the girl for permission to kiss her… slowly pull her towards you, and simply kiss her.
Instead of asking a girl out on a date… tell her that you’re grabbing drinks, and she should join.
Instead of asking a girl if she wants to be your girlfriend… just be the kind of guy that she would want to date, and let her come to you.
Be absolutely certain in everything you do.
When you want to do something, just do it. It’s really that simple.
Women have been hard-wired into their DNA to want only two things from men: Survival and Reproduction.
What women truly want from a man at the core level, is a man who can protect her, and display the most alpha-male behaviour, so her offspring will have the best chance of survival too.
Therefore, a man who is always looking for approval from his woman is not providing her with any signs of protection and alpha-behaviour.
Seeking permission is just beta-male behaviour.
And you are a King.
Now, does this mean you should always be “confident?”
Not necessarily. There is a fine difference between being certain, and being confident.
Confidence comes from repetition.
For example, you are confident you can make the game-winning free throw because you practice 100 free throws every day.
It is something you build over time and is often dependent on your current emotional level.
Certainty, on the other hand, is immediate. It is a choice. That means you can choose to feel it any time you want, no matter the state of mind you’re in.
Robert Cialdini, in his book Influence, shares a great example of how this works while talking about the Commitment-Consistency principle.
In his book, he gives the example of a person goes to the racetracks and has absolutely no idea what horse to bet on. So he finally places a bet on a random horse, and when he does his belief in that horse’s ability to win skyrockets.
In other words, after making his decision (placing the bet), he becomes completely certain in his decision (the belief that the horse will win).
So what does this all mean to you?
Become more decisive. Every time you take action, without seeking anyone approval, your ability to be sure of yourself goes up through the roof.
All the guys who are really good with women act like this.
Because this article is packed with a lot of golden nuggets, let’s recap some of the key takeaways real quick:
- Never ask a girl, “Can I kiss you?” because if she really wanted you to kiss her, you would know.
- Quit asking women for permission when you do things.
- Women want a man who displays alpha behaviour and moves with certainty. This subconsciously tells her that you are more “fit” to lead her through life.
- If you spot any one of these 7 signs listed above, then she definitely wants you to kiss her. So pull her slowly towards you, and kiss her like a man.
- Seeking permission to kiss a girl is a “beta-male” behaviour.
- You are a KING!
- The king does what he wants when he wants.
Start applying these tips listed in this article in your dating life today and thank me later.
P.S. Here’s another related article on the topic: Went In for the Kiss Got Cheek (How to Take it Further)