How To Make Conversation With A Girl (And Immediately Build Solid Connection)

So you’re good at approaching a girl anywhere — in the streets, malls, cafes, or other public places — and getting her attention, but you run out of things to say to her, and watch her walk away with a “I have to go!” line? Then you need to learn how to make a conversation with a girl and build a quick connection so that she’ll stay in the conversation, tell you more about her, and also give you her phone number so that you can ask her out on a date, if you’re really interested in her.

This article will help you learn simple yet powerful ways on how to hold a conversation with a girl:

#1: Ask her questions.

By asking questions, you immediately show to a girl you’re interested in her, while in the back of your mind, you decide whether or not she’s worth your time. A great question always make a girl laugh, think, and like you, simultaneously.

Avoid asking closed ended questions — questions that yields only yes’ or ‘no’ responses.

For example: If you ask a girl, “Hey, did you like the movie last week?” you’ll only get either a “yes” or “no” answer, but may not lead into a much meaningful conversation. Instead, ask her, “Which was your favourite movie and WHY she likes it?”

This type of open-ended questions yields a much longer answer from her.

#2: Lead the interaction. Girls wants guys who can take the lead, not the other way around. Be ‘proactive’ and take the lead — ask her questions, first — in the interaction.

Once she answers your question, simply nod back and give your opinion. This will help strike up a balance in the interaction, where you find interesting things about her, while you also reveal some part of your personalities to her.

#3: Figure out about her passions.

People love to talk about their interests and hobbies. If you’re talking to this girl, chances are there’s something interesting about her too.

Ask her what she likes to do for fun? It’ll immediately help you avoid asking boring questions, like what she does for a living or where she went ot study, etc, and launch into something she really enjoys doing.

Few things to keep in mind: Make sure you’re genuinely interested in her, and ask her questions accordingly, not just to get her to talk to you. If you’re insincers, women can pick it up from a mile away and she’ll leave the interaction, within seconds.

#4: Build a connection.

The easiest and quickest way to build a connection with a girl is to let them talk about themselves and get to know them a little bit more. You ask her a question about her passions, hobbies, or interests, and then, you ask her WHY she does WHAT she does, WHY she likes WHAT she likes. (A lot of guys don’t this, they only talk on a “surface level” with a girl.)

Here’s how most guys talk with a girl:

Guy: “Do you like music?”
Girl: “Yes, I love listening to Whitney Houston!”
Guy: “Me too, I love Whitney and Mariah Carey!” and they change the topic.

By doing this, you don’t find more about her, what makes her special, and what makes her tick.

You need to go a little bit deep in your interaction with a girl to get to know her a little bit more, to create a solid connection with her. So, once you’ve asked a question and she answers you back, try to go a little bit deeper, by asking her WHY she does what she does, WHY she likes what she likes.

This way, the conversation will flow, naturally and easily.

Here’s how to make conversation with a girl and build solid connection:

Guy: “Do you like music?”
Girl: “Yes, I love listening to Whitney Houston!”
Guy: “WHY do you like to listen to Whiteney?”
Girl: “Oh I love how much effort, energy, and passion she puts when she’s performing on the stage. I love her because I feel she’s a passionate woman who likes to give everything — her soul, mind, and heart — when she is doing something that she genuinely cares about, which also inspires me to give my best in everything I love do.”

Did you notice the difference between the first and second examples?

When you build a strong connection with a girl, she won’t easily forget about you, because no other guy talked with her like that.

#5: Strike up a balance.

An interaction has to be like a ping-pong match. A ball keeps moving back and forth across the table and each player on either side of the table gets to hit the ball one time. That’s how you must make conversation with a girl — she talks 50% of the time and you talk 50% of the time.

By striking up a balance, you give her time to contribute in an interaction, which makes her feel valued and been listened. You immediately stand out from the pack of boys — some guys can’t keep their mouth shut, which makes a girl feel she’s watching a TV show, while others ask too many questions, without contributing anything in the interaction — and make a lasting first impression her.

#6: Be comfortable with pauses.

Of course, you’re not going to be able to come up topic after topic to talk to a girl during an interaction, and that’s totally fine. Pauses are natural part of the interaction. A lot of guys get scared of using pauses in an interaction, and they immediately rush in to fill the silences, hoping the girl won’t walk way.

But taking pauses in between the conversations allows your mind to take a break — gives you enough time to think — so that you can come up with another topic to talk to a girl.

So take a sip from your drink, keep smiling, and look around the room, until you come up with something to say to her. Be confident and interested in her, and she’ll wait with anticipation for what you’re going to say next. Avoid looking down at your feet and feel nervous, which, in turn, makes her feel uncomfortable.

Here’s how to take pauses to come up with a conversation topic:

When you take a pause, appear as if you’re trying to think what to say next. She’ll be invested in the interaction trying to figure out what you’re going to say next. She may also feel compelled to fill the silence with her own conversation.

Pauses can also gives her an opportunity to ‘impress’ YOU. During the pause, you subtely invite her to take the initiative. If she does, you’ll know she’s enjoying talking to you.

#7: Keep it light and funny.

DO NOT fall into controversial topics or anything that is sensitive — politics, religion, sex, or technical stuffs — with her, which can make her uncomfortable and serious. Keep the conversation light and funny and get her laughing, giggling, and feeling really good in your presence.

And, test the water before you say anything that she might think offensive or mean.

Share jokes and stories with her — particularly funny things that happened to you. If you can’t think of anything, take some time to come up with a few and keep a list of funny or entertaining things to tell to a girl when you meet her in public places.

#8: Pay attention to your body language.

Look at her, into her eyes. Stand tall and sit up straight. Smile with your eyes. When you do all these, she’ll feel as if you’re focused on her.

Watch her body language too. If she makes eye contact with you, or lightly touches you in the arm, or slighlty leads forward towards you while you’re talking to her, then you can know for certain that she’s into you.

OTOH, if she’s constantly checking her mobile, looking away, fiddling with her drink, or looks like she can’t wait to make an exit, then she might not be highly interested in you. You can say something like, “Hey, are you having a bad day? You look like you’re 1000 miles away.” Or, if she doesn’t seem all that interested, just politely say, “Hey, nice talking to you” and walk away.

#9: Keep your focus on her.

Keep the spotlight on her and let her know that you think she’s important. Try to focus all your attention mainly on her, rather than talking about yourself. Ask her questions and try to know WHY she likes/does the things she shares with you. And, if she asks you a question, make it short and sweet, and immediately put the spotlight back to her. Let her gums flap, guys.

Few things to remember: Turn of your phone when you’re talking to a girl. If you run into your friends, introduce her to your friends but remain focused on her. Try to send non-verbal signals to your friends letting them know that they need to talk to you some other time.

#10: End the interaction on a positive note.

Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her and getting to know her. If you feel a connection, go for the phone number. Wait for a day or two, and send her a text saying that you had a great time. If she texts you back, you might get another chance to meet her and continue with that initial conversation.

Few things to remember:

• Wait at least a day before you call/text her, because you don’t want to come across as too forward, and at the same time, you don’t want to appear as a needy guy. So wait for a day or two before contacting her.
• Keep things short and sweet when you call/text her. Text or call her to set up a date to go out and grab a drink or visit a museum, or anything you like to do with her.
• Keep things low key until you’re sure she likes you. She might feel a bit weird if you’re pushing really hard while she’s not. Strike up a balance and keep the conversation flowing.

Thanks for reading.

Now go out and make it happen.

Abishek

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