How to Sexually AROUSE A Woman: The ‘Secret’ to Sexual Attraction

The #1 Secret to Making Her all HOT and AROUSED!

There are only a handful of things that make a man feel like masculine and strong than his ability to arouse a woman sexually.

But very few men know how to push all the right buttons, because there seems to be so many, and not every girl is the same.

To make things easier for you, I have a list of tools, which if you use it well, can help you learn how to successfully arouse a woman sexually.

But before we even begin, let me be clear with you at what we are getting into here.

You are basically trying to make girls aroused sexually with the ultimate objective of leading things towards sex.

Now, there are plenty of articles on “how to sexually turn a woman on” and most of them often talk about things like be romantic and act gentleman.

Nothing’s wrong doing any of that stuffs, but for the sake of this article, I am going to assume that you already know how to do these things.

With that said, let’s just dive into the juicy stuffs that actually gets a woman’s vagina dripping wet.

Different Levels of Arousal

Wouldn’t it be so good to have some kind of system that could tell you exactly how much the girl you’re talking to is ready to bang based on her arousal level?

Now, of course, you can’t pull off her panties to determine her drippiness, but you can certainly look at certain behaviour sets that indicates where she is at.

Remember, this is not some sort of escalation ladder.

Some guys use escalation ladders (something that starts from touching the back of her elbow with the front of your hand, and eventually ends up in sex), but in my opinion that’s kind of artificial and lame.

In fact, you can jump straight into escalation by making out with her and grabbing her ass, and then, jumping back to light touching, and then, leaping forward again to foreplay.

It’s this kind of unpredictable and dominant behaviours that turns a girl on, not the safe and standard linear progression ladder that you would have followed.

The standard escalation goes from 1 to 10, where 1 is “unaroused state” and 10 is “highly eager for sex”.

At 8 and beyond that point, any girl is pretty horny and ready to have sex.

At this crucial moment, you MUST use your intuition and never treat this like a rule book.

Here are just a bunch of indicators you can refer back when trying to determine her readiness.

Sexual Arousal Levels

Levels 1

  • Thumbs war
  • Side hugs
  • Hand shakes
  • High fives
  • Knuckle bumps

Levels 2

  • Friendly hugs
  • Arm-in-arm walking

Levels 3

  • Tickling her
  • Holding hands, fingers not intertwined
  • She slaps your thigh while seated
  • Briefly massaging her shoulders while she sits

Level 4

  • Holding hands
  • Fingers intertwined
  • Caress her forearm

Level 5

  • Smack her ass (she’s fine with it)
  • Spooning/snuggling
  • She squeezes your thigh
  • She straddles your body/legs as you stand
  • She sits on a stool

Level 6

  • She runs her fingers through your hair
  • Her palm touches your chest slightly
  • She caresses her hair, face, or neck
  • Brief mouth to mouth kisses
  • Massaging her upper back while she’s lying down

Level 7

  • Biting/kissing her neck
  • Light making out (she doesn’t use tongue much).
  • Touch her breast over her clothes
  • Light making out. She doesn’t use tongue much.
  • You briefly rub her cooch over clothes
  • Stands with her pelvis against yours, gyrating or rocking
  • Her hand stays on your chest, such as squeezing your nipple
  • Having her suck your thumb

Level 8

  • Playing with her breasts, skin on skin
  • Squeezing her ass during makeout
  • Sucking her nipple
  • Heavy making out. She uses her bites/sucks/tongue
  • Stands with her pelvis against yours, rocking or gyrating
  • As you hold hands, the back of hers is against your cock
  • She’s got her hand on your dick, outside of pants
  • She keeps her arm across your lap with her elbow touching your cock

Level 9

  • She’s giving you head
  • She’s rubbing your junk, skin on skin
  • You’re intensely rubbing her cooch over her clothes

Level 10

  • Fingering her or eating her out.

Okay, that’s just a reference point for you to know where the girl is in terms of getting ready for banging.

But how do you get her aroused sexually first?

The answer is pretty simple.

You can arouse her either through touch or without touch.

Tactile Stimulation

There are two types of tactile stimulation — vaginal and non-vaginal.

The way to arouse a girl without touching her puss include doing things like kissing, massage, or dancing really close to her or being “a caveman”.

Let’s start with kissing.

There is one simple rule you must remember about kissing… girls always liked to be kissed in the way they want to be kissed.

That means if a girl likes to be kissed roughly, she’ll kiss you roughly.

On the other hand, if she doesn’t want the tongue, she won’t give you it to you.

So, you need to adjust your kissing accordingly.

A Few Types of Kisses

  • The bite. Make sure not to bite her tongue, but if you want, go for it. Just make sure to be gentle on it though. Bite her lips, too.
  • The suck. Suck her tongue, lips, or anywhere on her body (especially on her neck).
  • The lick. Suck her mouth, neck, or anywhere below but avoid certain areas (especially her forehead).
  • Frenching. Do this when she’s is slightly turned on. French kissing can open doors for even more escalation, such as petting and titty play.
  • Soft kisses. Kiss her on the neck, the breasts, and the lips. The lightest kisses often produce the most effective sensation if done correctly.

Another skill you can learn is giving massage to girls.

Now, you don’t have to be a “massage expert” to make her aroused, but you should definitely flip through a couple of books on massage and start taking some pointers.

Usually, you want to massage her back, shoulders, thighs, and butt.

Don’t leave her feet though.

It doesn’t have to be deep, because you’re not trying to cure her spasms.

Just gentle caresses around her shoulder blades and back should do the trick. Use oil if you can.

The whole idea is NOT to give her the best massage of her life, but to get her HOT and AROUSED sexually.

Don’t over do it.

Ten minutes is enough.

And once you’re in the “zone”, do not try to tickle her.

It can get her in a good mood, but it can also destroy the arousal.

The best tip I can give you about massage could be this: ENJOY doing it.

When you enjoy giving massages she’ll sense it too and the result will be mind-boggling.

Most girls like to be dominated by their man.

It turns them on.

Good news for you if you are a dominant type.

If you have problem being a dominant guy in the bedroom, I highly recommend you to read the book called Just Fuck Me! by Eve Kingley.

Being a “caveman” means being physically dominant and treating a woman like a piece of meat.

Slapping and squeezing her ass, pulling her into you, and holding her hair at the base of her head.

Of course, you don’t want to harm her, but you MUST display this side of your masculinity to her.

She needs to know she is your “property” and if you want you’ll man-handle her.

Sounds chauvinist, but this is what arouse women.

Well, those were “non-vaginal ways” to get her aroused with your touch.

Now let’s talk about the most obvious arousal method.

Vaginal Stimulation

The vagina has many arousal points you can hit to arouse her and ultimately make her orgasm.

Just so I don’t overwhelm you, I’ll talk about just two major arousal points — “G spot” and the clitoris.

I realize that a lot of guys have difficulty spotting both of these.

In fact, most women don’t have a clue where their “G spot” is either.

But each of these point gives women different kinds of orgasms, with the G spot often tending to give a deeper sensation.

When you are checking out her vagina and she is on her back and her knees are straddling your head, you can spot the “clit” at the top.

Just beneath her clitoris is the urethra (where her pee pee comes out), and then comes the entrance to the vag.

Each girl is different as to what kind of pressure and motion her clit wants.

You will have to figure out that through experimentation and observation.

Also note that, after orgasm, the “clit” often has a refractory period, at which time it is way too sensitive for further stimulation.

At this point, leave it for a while, and work on the “G spot”, and when she’s finally ready, resume the clitoral stimulation.

The G spot is located on the roof of the vagina… close to the entrance.

Most women like the “come hither” motion of your fingers, or the up and down movement.

With enough movement in this G-spot, you can make her squirt; but remember, most girls can’t or won’t squirt, so do not be surprised if she doesn’t want to try.

There are several ways to stimulate these two points, either orally or with your fingers, or with your cock or with toys.

Visit a sex store and learn about dildos, vibrators, and beads for extra sensation and excitement in the bedroom.

Non-Tactile Stimulation

Making out and playing with her pussy are vital skills that takes a little bit of practice, but it can be learned easily.

The real challenge lies in turning her on without using your mouth, hands, or dick.

It’s called the “non-tactile stimulation”, and I like to categorize it further by these senses.

Touch

When I say touch, I don’t mean you touching her, but instead I’m referring to her initiating touching you.

Hair in some places and absence of hair in other place can turn her on sexually.

The skin on skin touch can arouse her.

Well defined muscle (chest, shoulders, butt) turns a girl on.

And, girls love playing with dicks.

Doing that alone can make her ready to bang, hence the motto, “When it doubt, whip it out.”

Auditory

What a girl hears can make her wet.

There are two types of auditory stimulation — conscious and subconscious.

The conscious type of auditory stimulation involves the words you use and within this category you can either speak “sexually” or “non-sexually” (sense of humor, wit, routines).

Women with intelligence are turned on by men with wit, but often times guys use their wit and humour to hide behind. Stop being that guy.

The topic of sexualization is covered detailly in the article, “How to get a hot girlfriend.”

Just to recap things, sexual talk can either be explicit or implicit.

Both can get the job done, although explicit talk often tends to work better once a girl’s puss is dripping wet.

On the other hand, subconscious auditory stimulation involves NLP tactics like embedded commands and vocal tonality (the deeper the sexiert).

Visual

While you may use certain cues to turn some chicks on (self-pointing, for example), most of the time, the tools that’ll often get her sexually aroused are conscious.

Having an awesome physique (not the Mr. Olympia kind — that actually turns women off) arouses women.

Making dominant, confident, and seductive eye contact is powerful too.

In contrast, sometimes, blind-folding her can turn her on, bringing an element of danger and excitement.

And, other times, certain words you text her can also get her aroused.

Smell

Again, there are conscious and subconscious elements of smell.

The smell of your hair, your cologne, fresh breath, and even having a clean-smelling skin can turn chicks on.

Some amount of sweat (just a whiff) can be arousing.

When choosing a cologne, make sure to know the preference of your female companions; mine often get turned on my James Bond 007.

A lot of them like love it.

Taste

This is the least uses of the senses, because there are a very few tastes that turn a woman on.

Some people think oysters are like aphrodisiacs, but there is a truth to that.

You can have her feed her strawberries, or pudding off you, but again it isn’t so much the actual taste of the food which turns her on, but how you use the food.

Some women like the taste of salty skin (right after exercise or sex) stimulating, and some prefer a man’s mouth that tastes like alcohol or cigarettes.

But you must always keep in mind that each girl is different and they respond differently to various stimuli; observation and experimentation will help you sort things out.

The main idea of this article is to help you categorize female sexual arousal levels and techniques, so that you know how ready she is for banging.

Whether you approach this seduction tactic like a scientist or an artist, always make sure to enjoy doing it and have fun with it.

Stay chilled,

Abishek

P.S. Here’s another related article on the subject: How To Talk To A Beautiful Woman You Just Met (15 “Killer” Tips)