I believe that originality is the most important quality that you can convey to a woman — from your sense of style, to how you approach women and engage them in conversation.
It’s important to make a unique first impression because otherwise, she might assume you’re “just like the other guys” who approach her.
This means that right away, she’s going to feel UNCOMFORTABLE and look for a way out… because MOST guys when they talk to her, are only going to bore her or annoy her. You do not want her to make this assumption about you.
If you’re in a social environment (bar, nightclub, party) that’s when the girl uses the classic excuse: “I need to go find my friends.”
(Don’t you just hate when women say that? As if her friends are lost and dying of thirst, in need of rescuing…)
The importance of making an original impression holds especially true in strip clubs, where the strippers are having over 50 conversations EVERY NIGHT with different customers.
When a stripper approaches a potential customer and starts talking to him, she can pretty much tell IMMEDIATELY whether this is a typical customer who is an “easy mark,” and is going to fall for her hustle.
At the same time, you want to create a BOND with her. You want to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself — details she wouldn’t normally share with a customer. Then, you’ll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her.
One of my favourite conversational tactics for accomplishing this is using Cold Reads.
This tactic, which is used all the time by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you.
The trick with Cold Reads is that the “observations” you’re making apply to practically anybody. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively. Human beings are self-centred, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.
Let me give you some examples…
If I’m in a strip club, talking to a dancer, I’ll use a Cold Read.
“Y’know, I get the sense that when you’re not working, a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they see you. They assume you’re stand-offish and a bit cold, because of the way you carry yourself. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny than people realize.”
(This Cold Read is universally true with really hot women, who give of a “cold” vibe when they’re out walking around. This is simply because they don’t want to deal with guys coming up and hitting on them all the time. But, once you get to know these girls, they often ARE sensitive and funnier than you’d think.)
Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you’re always there for them.”
(Again, this “observation” applies to pretty much any woman — but it SOUNDS deep, doesn’t it?)
Or, “I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out on an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances… and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”
If she agrees with my Cold Read — and seriously, I’ve never had a woman totally disagree — I’ll follow up by telling her that I can relate, because I’m the same way. This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a quick story that ILLUSTRATES how I’m the same type of person.
(If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities.)
Here’s another cool one: “I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You’re on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you?”
Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). But she’ll be surprised and impressed that you “knew” that about her. She’ll volunteer more information about herself, and now you’re engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward silences.
(This one works GREAT with strippers because these girls ALWAYS seem to have some type of drama on their mind.)
Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, you should nod wisely and say, “Yes, that’s right, and you’re really having a hard time with it.”
Act as if you already KNEW what she was going to say!
Some other Cold Reads that are vague, yet sound “profound”:
“I can tell you have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”
“You’ve got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it — but something is holding you back.”
“At times, you’re really social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and introverted.”
Once you add Cold Reads to your conversations with women, you’ll get a feel for which ones work best. In strip clubs, techniques like these can quickly CHANGE her perception of you “just another customer” — and allow you to connect with her on a real level, which can lead to getting her phone number… and meeting up with her after her shift for some REAL fun 😉
And best of all, when you finally ‘get it’… your WHOLE LIFE changes just like… THAT.
So if you want to skip the entire nerve-racking learning curve and start meeting and getting them with no fear of rejection, then you owe it to yourself to check this out:
P.S. Here are other related article on the subject: How to “Close the Deal” with a Stripper