In today’s post, I am going to talk about the risks of coming across as “hungry” when it comes to getting girls. When you are “too hungry” you unconsciously display unattractive qualities such as approval seeking behaviour, neediness, clinginess to girls without even realizing it.
There are many ways to make a girl attracted to you, and even more ways to instantly kill any attraction she has for you. This post discusses one of the easiest ways to kill that attraction instantly.
Keep reading this post to understand why “those who appear too hungry never get fed.”
And immediately weed out those behaviours to avoid ruining your chances with girls.
Why “Hungry don’t get fed”
It sounds pretty simple, but let me talk about what “appearing hungry” really means.
“Hungry” is a term most of us use to describe a person who is desperate. And, “appearing hungry” means being desperate for a girl’s attention, being desperate for sex, being desperate for her approval. Now, these types of guys are not hard to find. We have all been there at least one time in our life. I used to be that guy, too. And if you are reading this, you probably have been that guy, too. Your friend has been that guy. The guy sitting around hordes of women at the bar has been that guy.
You can easily spot them. He is probably wandering around at a bar, or a night club, or even at Starbucks the entire time hoping to catch some kind of women’s attention, approval. It’s that guy at the bar who is holding his drink close in his chest, but his eyes are scanning the room with radar eyes. You can also catch him with his friends sometimes, and they are not even talking with each other. It’s just pathetic when you catch them looking for that “I need a girl’s approval” look. You could almost smell the desperation. It repels everyone. It retracts. And it smells terrible.
When I and some of my friends stumbled upon this “Hungry one never get fed” concept and started to live by this motto, we would go out, and we’d walk up to each other and say, “Man, you are looking hungry, dude. You’re looking absolutely hungry.” Then, we’d even pretend to have a fake little small talk just so that others watching us would not realize how hungry we were. A lot of people think like looking hungry, especially if you are a good looking dude, or cool dude, it doesn’t matter. But you need to understand that you could be doing a lot of other things, even the way you are staring at girls can make you come across as hungry. Back then, I had a friend called Joe, that I worked with.
Joe was, in all ways, a handsome bloke. He was a cool dude, like funny and everything, but he never had a girlfriend. On the outside, you might wonder, “Well, how does this guy not get laid?” But when you’re with him, you realize he is so freaking hungry. Let me give you a few examples so that even if you may or may not have done any of these mistakes, you will make sure to never do it in the future. One thing Joe would do is he would just sit around. When he was having a conversation with girls, he would often talk about other girls saying things like, “Why is that girl with that jerk? Why do good girls always wind up with the assholes like as if they don’t like good guys?”
When you’re saying all these things, you’re basically saying to girls, “Girls don’t like me.” And this kind of “vibe” comes off are really desperate.
Another thing Joe would often do would be… let’s say I started dating a new girl… and I would introduce him to her… or let’s say a new girl started to work along with us. He would within 5 minutes ask the girl, “Do you have any female friends? You should definitely bring some friends next time!” The moment the girl would hear this, she’d be like I do not want to bring my friends and introduce them to this hungry dude.
Now, Joe is the kind of dude like… if we had any attractive friends on Facebook, any girls who were attractive, as soon as that girl posts something sexy or some flattering picture of herself, he’d be the first guy liking it, “You soon stunning. You look beautiful. Great.” I’m sure, as I said earlier, if you have any attractive friends on Facebook, go look at their pages. Browse through their photos, and hopefully, you’re not that guy posting those comments. If you are doing that, immediately stop doing that, because nothing good is going to come off that. She’s not going to think like, “Wow, this guy is flattering me, so I need to go and fuck him.” She’s going to look at that and be like, “Wow, this dude is clearly, very hungry.”
You want to control yourself doing all these unattractive things, because, as I said earlier, I knew this mantra. Yeah. I was still guilty of doing this, but we all get guilty without even realizing it. I still remember going to a party at my friend’s house one day. That girl that I was interested in, and I was like she would also come to the party. She eventually showed up, and we had this conversation. It was going good, and then, her friends wanted to leave. She’s like, “I got to go.” I’m like, “Just stay a little bit longer, and it displayed so much neediness and hunger that it just drove her away.”
It’s quite amazing. I knew the mantra. I would always head out of my house. I would keep in mind not to look hungry, but then unknowingly, I was even doing things like pecking into her. I was out of a date with a hot chick, and I found myself doing it. We were talking, having a great time, sipping our drinks at the bar. I’m noticing, I’m like, “Why half my body is like this…?” I was like, “My god. This appears so cringy,” because I notice other guy doing that too. I’m like, “It’s super obvious he’s so invested.” This guy is so dependent on that girl’s approval that he’s almost jumping out of his skin, and then here I was doing it again. It’s something that I have to remind myself of regularly that you have to really vet all your behaviour for that hungry, hungry aspect of it.
You really want to notice if you’re sending out that hungry vibe to a girl. Many times, it’s funny to see this happening because a lot of guys misinterpret because a girl seems clearly attracted to them at first. They meet a girl randomly at a bar, or somewhere, go out on a few dates, and so on. Then all of a sudden they notice the girl’s pulling back, or she stops responding to his texts, or she becomes a little less interested, or maybe gives you very little to work with, or she gives you that one-word answers, and you can sense like something just happened there. You’re like, “Why? What’s wrong?” I can almost guarantee is that the sense you were getting hungry.
Sometimes the hunger things could be sending flowers to her at her workplace. Doing that just reeks of that neediness. It could be like sending her looooooooooong or too many texts. Checking texts are like when you’re sending her texts like, “Hey, what’s up with you? What are you doing?” You’re like always wanting to know what she is doing, and she can immediately feel like, “He’s checking in on me. He’s like, a little… little too invested.” Which also means being too available. There are a lot of different things that you could be doing unconsciously, and you have to be aware that girls have a radar for this hunger. They can instantly smell it.
They cannot only sniff it, but they are also so afraid of it because its so creepy. For a very good reason, a lot of guys tend to get too needy too early. They start to become too clingy, so girls have no other option than to reject these guys out blatantly, and they do this with little tests. There is the thing that they do where maybe they…. maybe it’s on a conscious level, or maybe on a subconscious level. Maybe they’ll just ignore your texts, just to see how you’ll react. They want to sniff “how hungry this guy is?” These are all little things that girls are constantly doing, and you have to be aware of it. Now, here’s the good news: when you are aware that girls are testing for how hungry you are, you’re actually able to use this information to your advantage. One thing you must always understand is when you don’t appear hungry, it’s a very attractive trait.
When a girl meets a guy who is totally not hungry for her attention, her approval, she gets hungry for his, right? What my friends Rob and Bobby did together was put up a video together for you, and they have explained this concept in detail. In fact, it’s a technique, and it’s actually a little on the sneaky side. I’m going to have to warn you though. It may or may not be something that you’re comfortable using, but they have put a video together explaining it further. What this video does is teach you exactly how to do it, there are actually four things that they like to call it, “The 4 Horsemen of the Chase”.
These are the things that you can do to test girls, and get them hungry for you, and to get them to start chasing you. As I said earlier, they call this program “the Scrambler.” It’s a little bit of a mind game, but I have to tell you it’s really mindblowingly effective. If you just click the link below, you can immediately be taken to a page where you can watch that video and learn that technique within minutes. Even if you’ve learned absolutely nothing from this video, you’ll at least have learned that those who appear hungry and needy never get fed.
P.S. Here’s another related article on the subject: 3 Conversation Topics to Take Things Towards “Intimate Level”