How to Avoid Awkward Silences with a Girl (and Keep a Conversation Going)
Talking to a beautiful woman is, as we all know, one of the hardest things to do. It takes so much energy just to get the nerve to walk up to the woman in the first place that you kind of forget that you actually need something to talk to her about, leaving you a mess of awkward silence before she finally picks up her stakes and moves on to the next guy.
Luckily, if you follow the following easy-to-use tips, you’ll never have to worry about these moments of awkwardness ever again.
Tip 1: Remember Your Cold Reads
If you’ve gotten this far in life, you know that women are different from men. Men, in general, like to get bogged down in the details of things, facts, events, the surface level of stories. Women, meanwhile, are the more “mystical” of the two sexes, speaking more about emotions and what things mean on a deeper sense. One way to show a woman that you can think just as deeply as her is through cold reads.
How you do this is simple: Just like in poker, where someone tries to “read” another person just by the kind of face they’re making, make a read about the girl, and then tell her. For example, if the woman mentions a few of her ex-boyfriends, say something like “I bet you’re the type of girl who can’t really settle down because you seem to lose interest quickly. Instead, you’re really looking for someone who can satisfy your need for adventure.” From there, the two of you can psychoanalyze her, bringing together two aspects of conversation that women love: Talking about themselves and talking about deep feelings.
Tip 2: Convert “Safe” Topics
When a man is nervous, he tends to stay on “safe” topics for a large percentage of time, knowing in his mind that he has to in order to keep the woman from feeling uncomfortable. However, certain women tend to crave being made uncomfortable since they no longer have the control when it comes to the conversation; it’s the same mentality as why women like the “bad guys”. As a result, turn “safe” topics that you’re talking about into “unsafe” ones.
For example, if the conversation gets into how one of you has a dog and one of you has a cat, tell her that “you’ve heard of studies where cat and dog owners can never get into a lasting relationship because of their two personalities … however, the study also showed that they made the best lovers because of that.” You just turned a boring topic about pets into one about sex. Move from there.
Tip 3: Become a Storyteller
Storytellers are natural attention-getters. Look at any movie, TV show or even music group you like and you’ll see that they are generally populated by amazing storytellers.
It’s no surprise then that women are naturally attracted to storytellers.
The best part about a conversation with a woman you’ve never met is that you have all of your stories still at your disposal. As such, don’t be afraid to embellish a little but, at the same time, allow the woman certain clues to know about the kind of person you are. You see, during this story she is not only listening to your narrative, but is also trying to find out what kind of guy you are by reading in between the lines. For example, if you tell a story starting with the phrase “I get up early for work” she’ll assume that you are some kind of businessman with a high-paying job, and you never even had to give her that information. Littering your story with small clues like that that show you in a positive light are the most important part of becoming the storyteller.