KNOW What Kind of Attraction a Girl Has For You
Recently, I was out at a bar with some friends and they simply could not believe why this super hot babe Michelle finds in me, especially when her last boyfriend was a son of a multi-millionaire mogul. My buddies completely didn’t understand that there are different types of attraction.
Back in 2007, when I took a Pickup Bootcamp, the concept of attraction was taught simply, if you try to kiss a girl and it worked, then she’s attracted to you.
But in fact, there are several other ways a woman can become attracted to you. Back in the old days, I had learned about 7 different kinds of way women could be attracted to men. But just to keep everything super simple, and not overwhelm you, I’m going to reveal to you the 3 most important types of attraction.
3 Most Important Types of Attraction
1. Physical or Sexual Attraction
The physical or sexual attraction is all about making the girl hot and aroused physically. Arousal is a natural physical response from women, that once triggered is almost impossible to stop! The best ways to trigger sexual attraction is to start touching her, teasing her sexually, and framing the interaction sexually. An incredibly effective way to test for sexual attraction is to make a sexual comment like, “Hey, don’t throw your panties at me all at once.” And pay attention to her response. If she’s attracted to you sexually she’ll almost always respond, “Hey, I’m not wearing any.”
2. Value-based Attraction
The value-based attraction is the most common type of attraction. One way to think about it is that you use value to build attraction, especially when you are picking up women who are more physically attractive (the 9s and the 10s) than you. The best way to create a value-based attraction includes using social proof, storytelling, displays of connections or power like getting “hooked up,” and displaying wealth like having a nice car or offering bottle service. Value is also very personal. What is valuable to one woman may be completely useless to the other. So you want to ensure that you have a good idea what kind of woman you are dealing with before you start trying to create value based attraction so that you don’t wind up using the wrong type of value.
3. Emotional Attraction
This type of attraction is what’s going to be our most important tool for picking up women and getting them emotionally hooked on us. Emotional attraction is very important because almost everyone makes emotional decisions and then uses logic to justify things after the fact. They call this cognitive dissonance. When you are able to push a woman’s hot buttons emotionally suddenly you become very important to her. Everyone, not just only women, responds to being emotional stimulated no matter if it’s in a positive way by laughing or in a frustrating way like being a challenge or teased. If you want to become really good at pickup, I highly advise you start with being able to spark an emotional attraction in the women you talk to.
Okay, so now that you know and understand what kinds of attraction you must be trying to create in a woman, let’s learn a few things about testing for attraction.
Basically, there are 3 simple ways to determine if a girl is attracted to you or not.
- Try to touch her. The way a woman responds to you when you’re trying to touch her gives you almost 100% of the information you need. If she moves away or tenses up, then she’s not into you.
- Try to qualify her. Often, women are friendly and polite and will let you continue talking to them even if they are not interested. These women, however, will not quality themselves when you ask big qualifying questions such as “Besides being beautiful, what else is going for you?” or “What’s your best quality?”
- Try to move her. To be honest, you only need to use this one and touching to know if a girl is attracted to you or not. Women do not move around venues or leave their friends just to have alone time with guys they are not attracted to.
That’s all for this time, hopefully, this post has helped you to know and understand the concept of attraction a little better as well as giving you the 3 secret tools you need to instantly know whether women are attracted to you or not when you are picking them up.