How to Walk Like an Alpha Male (And Make Women Want You)

It’s all about walking with confidence.

I heard somewhere that your “inner game” is a by-product of your physiology. If there’s truth in that statement, then this secret tactic alone can dramatically improve your “inner game” almost overnight.

The Gunslinger Walk

In society, people often find themselves in a situation where two people are walking towards each other. When this happens to you, one of these 3 things may happen usually:

  1. You move to the other person.
  2. You both move only halfway for each other.
  3. The other person moves for you.

So why do people move for other people? Well, people move for other people because subconsciously they view the other as being higher status than themselves. The most obvious and simple example would be beautiful women and high-status men. The man might have high status coming from large muscle, a style of dress, or just the way he carries himself.

When you step out of other people’s way — particularly an attractive woman — you’re subconsciously telling her that you view her as being better than you. This does not help you if you want to meet and seduce her later.

Therefore, you must NEVER move for another person just based on their status alone. You’ll, of course, move out of your way if you meet someone who is elderly, handicapped or young children — but that’s it. You do the same thing with people with high status too — you will only move a half-step out of the way, and they’ll move the other half. With a strong presence, you’ll sense people who think they are slightly lower in social status than you moving out of your way as you walk through the crowd without you even doing anything at all.

Let me talk about the Gunslinger’s walk. It is an exaggerated style of walk based on high-status male and the archetype and the caricature of an 1800’s gunslinger — either the black-hat bandit or the white-hat sheriff. Men who walked around with electrifying presence.

Gunslinging isn’t necessary, but it can be a lot of fun. It is mirrored off those who project the utmost confidence. Just watching one of these guys can strike awe and wonder, and inspire others around them. The secret components of a Gunslinger’s Walk are:

  • The Horizon View: Staring beyond the crowd and expecting it to part.
  • Roll in the Heels: An exaggerated roll of the heels at the end of each step.
  • Thrown Back Shoulders: The example of a great body language.
  • The Slow Movement: Moving extremely slowly through crowds.
  • Roll in the Hips and Heels: an exaggerated push from the hips with each lift of the leg.
  • The Knowing Smile: The self-assured, disarming smile finishes the look.

So let’s dive into each.

The Horizon View

The Cowboys never looked directly at the crowds as they moved to pass it: their eyes were always focused past them, towards the horizon and the adventures that lay beyond. In the modern world, you often find the hottest women and high-status male not looking directly at people in front of them, but instead, they are looking right past them into the far distance as they are considering what goals they want to achieve.

Every time two people walk directly towards one another in a straight line, it becomes somewhat of a negotiation. The lower status man moves away from the way of the high-status male. By looking past the crowd and directly at the horizon, you transcend the struggle and the negotiation, and people are more likely to move out of the way of you as you walk past them.

Thrown Back Shoulders

Stand up to your full position. Always keep in mind to keep your shoulders back and broad at all times, with your chest puffing out and your stomach in. Just imagine the legendary cowboy, for example — he never made himself come across as meek, or humble, or small. He moved with purpose, and with his full stature.

The Slow Movement

When you’re gunslinging, it is VERY important that you walk at a slow pace. When you hurry through the world, it is very difficult to make other people move for you. To take this to its logical extreme, if someone is stopped, everyone is forced to go around them. So, make sure to move slower than other people around you — it helps you build a strong presence, making you come across as a powerful, which also means people who are scurrying will tend to defer to you.

Roll in the Hips and Heels

When your foot lands, you land it first with your heels, and “roll through” into the front of your foot, pushing off the ball. To help you, you can mentally imagine a sound like a cowboy’s spurs every time your foot touches the ground, like ka-ching, ka-ching, ka-ching.

Throw your hips into your walk, rolling them through so you rock ever-so-slightly back and forth each time you move. This will add to your stature once again, and draw a bit more attention to yourself. It’s crucial to keep your view to the horizon if you’re rolling your hips: You look like you’re a larger than life figure that way, as opposed to just trying to court attention.

The Knowing Smile

When gunslinging, just remember to smile — don’t try to look hard. It’s a self-assured, self-confident, and a slight knowing smile, with just a dash of cockiness mixed in. A slight smile goes a long long way with gunslinging to keep curiosity mixed in and soften you up slightly.

How to Part a Crowd

Here’s a secret behind the legendary gunslinging walk: once two people simultaneously break out of your way at the front of a crowd, people’s natural instincts are to follow the people in front of them. They presume that someone or something important is coming through, and they tend to break sideways. The effect becomes more pronounced the more people who do it: So, you start gunslinging, with a view on the horizon, great body language, moving slowly, rolling your heels and hips, with a slight knowing smile. You don’t look at people in front of you that are coming, you look at one point off in the distance where you’re walking.

Then, one person moves — then two. Jackpot, there’s a great chance the crowd will break and you can then part the seas as you move through it, which creates quite a buzz, quite an impression, and quite an entrance.

Directing Traffic Just Like the Alpha Male

Before I leave, I want to give you another last tip to help you with gunslinging, if you decide to use it. This one tip is a bit more complicated and more advanced, so you must get the basics down first.

You can direct traffic by which hand you hold up as people walking towards you. The secret is to lift up the opposite hand of the way you want the person to go, with your palm facing towards the way you want them to go.

So, let’s say if you want someone to pass you on your left, raise your right arm from your side upwards. Your palm should be facing left. This directs traffic, though it’s tricky to get. Once you get it though, it’s invaluable, especially in nightclubs.

The Gunslinger’s Walk is a potential nuclear reactor in your social toolbox, so have fun and use it wisely. Don’t go overboard with it, or get high on the power.

And that is how, my friend, you walk like a true alpha male, walk with power, walk with confidence, and walk with a vision.

Stay chilled,

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