What To Talk About With Girls

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Topics to Talk About with Girls (Best Conversation Topics to ‘NEVER Run Out of Things to Say’)

I bet the biggest fear that leads so many of us to experience ‘approach anxiety’ must probably be the fear of running out of things to say once the opener dries up.

Most guys, I realize, continue a “thread” until it runs its course.

You DO NOT want to bore a woman.

If she gets bored… chances are you’ll become bored too.

Nobody goes to a bar or club to get bored.

how to have conversations with women
DO NOT ‘bore’ a woman. Have FUN instead!

I go to bars and clubs to meet and connect with women, and have fun with other people. I enjoy talking to everyone when I go out.

(On a side note, in certain countries, it might not be considered to just strike up a conversation with strangers).

But, I LOVE talking to women.

So that’s what I end up doing anyway.

I often love talking about the things that interest me.

So I often wind up making friends with people who have similar interests.

So when you visit bars or clubs, picking up girls, make sure to have a bag full of interesting topics to talk about that’ll keep you both engaged the night.

Having an arsenal of good topics to talk about with any woman you might meet, anytime, anywhere, will help alleviate some of that dreaded approach anxiety.

What to Talk about with Girls

There are many subtleties of conversation, but one of the most crucial ones is having the ability to turn any conversation topics you’re given into full conversations.

With the ability to “thread cut” you can effortlessly come up with good conversation topics, stay away from entering into bad conversation topics, and talk about what you both want to talk about when you want to talk about it.

In short, it’s simply that mastery over a conversation.

It all begins with understanding the idea of “Situational Relevance” (SitRel)

Guys who are master conversationalist naturally understand the idea of SitRel — which is being relevant to the situation at hand.

The best way to understand it is through what happens when a guy isn’t relevant to the situation at hand when talking to a woman.

She’ll often say something like:

  • “Huh?”
  • “I don’t understand…”
  • “What?”
  • “Why are you asking me that?”
  • “That was totally random…”
  • “SitRel” can be used to your advantage.

How To Keep On Talking And Talking And Talking…

The easiest way to create the impression of SitRel is to grab one word from a sentence or a phrase and use that phrase or word into another… unrelated sentence.

Doing this creates an illusion of SitRel.

Here’s an example:

  • “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

Now I want you to isolate keywords from those sentences.

They are:

  • Raining
  • Cold
  • Warm
  • Clothes
  • Umbrellas
  • Walked
  • Street
  • Apartment
  • Hot chocolate

Now, if you use any one of these words or phrases when composing another sentence — without changing the meaning of the word — then it will appear SitRel to the situation.

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Wow… did you really do that? “I got wet in the rain a few days ago… it was so funny, I think it was on Thursday… but I actually had a day off that day. So I and my friend went outside, and there were huge water puddles on either side of the road, but the roads and footpaths were clear.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Wow… that’s amazing. I like to stay at home and getting warm. I remember when I was a 6-year-old kid, I had this thickest warm jacket — ever. It was really heavy and blue with a picture of a scary red devil looking directly at a blonde. Really appreciate that thing…”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “That’s super cool… yeah, really. I actually messed up. One day I was cleaning out my closet and gave all my stuff to the Salvation Army, but I didn’t have a clue as to how much of the winter clothes I gave away. And when it finally started getting cold, I actually had to use fall clothing and layer on top of it many times to make myself warm.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Super, I really like going outside, and like nature, and having a blast with my friends…”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “It’s always amazing to see little things you build come out to life, isn’t it?… From an igloo to a snowman to a treehouse… there’s just that something fun about it.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Oh my god… really? That’s cool. Haha. When I was a kid, we actually build a big hill right beside our house, and we used to roll snowballs down it, and then, push them back up, and roll them back down until we created absolutely massive snowmen.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “That’s super cool to be able to return back to an apartment and get warmed up… I actually moved to a new apartment where this is a warm fireplace and I can tell you that it’s like the greatest thing ever… I absolutely love coming back home during the winter.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Wow… you know where you get the best chocolate in the world? Haha. Yeah. Amsterdam. I really don’t have a clue what the Dutch specifically do with it…. I think they put drugs in it… but the hot chocolate is sooooo good there.”

How it Works

Thread cutting: You take one phrase or word out of the last sentence (or conversation) then use that word or phrase to compose your next sentence or a paragraph.

You can also use a few transition words such as

  • “Oh yeah?…”
  • “Yeah, I…”
  • “That reminds me of…”

— this displays that you’re acknowledging what the other person is saying to you, and then moving on to do more.

Using “Overarching Themes” To Have Even More Interesting Conversation

In addition to SitRel, you can also use “overarching themes” to keep the conversation going with girls.

Overarching themes are elements that aren’t said directly but are implied by the conversation.

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

Overarching themes:

  • Weather
  • Climate
  • Acting like a kid again
  • Coming home
  • Playing
  • Outdoors
  • Dress
  • Indulging
  • Creating Things
  • Hot drinks
  • Sweets

Anyone of these words or phrases can be used to compose new sentences and keep the conversation going, just like you did with the “thread cutting” concept.

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Yeah, the weather was crazy last night… I’m never sure what’s gonna happen the next day… but I often like to make the best of it… and go for a quick walk or hike, or just go and read a good book.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “Isn’t it so much fun acting like a 6-year-old kid again… yesterday, I was walking with one of my close friends, and we saw this huge green grassy hill. It was so beautiful, and we really stopped there for a couple of hours and ran up to the top of the hill… and rolled down it. That was a lot of fun I actually I have had in a very long time.”

Her: “It was raining and cold outdoing, so we wore warm clothes and carried our umbrellas, went out for a walk in the street, avoiding the pool of water puddle — and returned to our apartment and drank hot chocolate.”

You: “I really LOVE going out and grabbing a hot drink. My favourite is Indian chai tea, with lots of cinnamon in it.”

WHEN and HOW to Use ‘the Force’

You can use the concept of “thread cutting” when you get bored after a while or don’t enjoy talking about a topic, or you sense something is going stale or isn’t very good to have a memorable night.

If the conversation topic becomes way too sad, too serious, or too intense for your liking, then simply take one word or theme from the last sentence, and turn it into a new sentence through “thread cutting.”

Do not give a thought about conversation flowing in a logical sequence when you are talking to a new girl for the very first time.

Instead, focus your energy on talking about a wide range of fun topics and connecting on interesting and new things.

Once you have a great understanding of “thread cutting,” you’ll be able to effortlessly “vibe” your way through conversations.

These reports walks you through all the important tactics to make your conversation FUN, PLAYFUL, and SEXY.

Do you want to learn how to make small talk with women?

Stay chilled!

Abishek

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